Erica Wiederlight

[00:00:00] Speaker A: Welcome back, listeners, to the Tron podcast, the Randomness of Nothing today. I have a very special guest today, and I gotta tell you, her content is compelling, bubbly personality all around good person. Erica We Delight, CEO of We the Light. Thank you very much for joining me. [00:00:13] Speaker B: Oh, thank you. What a great intro. I love that. [00:00:16] Speaker A: Hey, you know, we got to start off on a good note, you know, because I don't want to be like that jerk after that, you know, once the camera stops rolling. What a terrible host. We all. What a waste of time, right? How are you? [00:00:27] Speaker B: Gotta start. Gotta start with positive vibes. I'm good. I'm so excited to chat. We have. So I said before, yeah, we got so much good stuff to dive into. [00:00:35] Speaker A: I appreciate you. First of all, obviously, you do great work because, you know, you're a dating and sexual empowerment coach, and obviously you help people, you know, who are, you know, feeling broken or inadequate. And you kind of like, I went to your website, and it's funny because people are kind of like, you talk about the things that people, like, kind of shy away from, but privately, everybody really has those struggles or really want to talk to. And it's nice that you carved out this niche where people have a very good, comfortable place to have those conversations. So first, how'd you get in this field of work? [00:01:03] Speaker B: Well, I'm laughing because you hit the nail on the head that if I. I just am like, wow, if my high school self knew what I was doing, I would be so embarrassed. Like, it was like, no, not this. So it's like, yeah, exactly, like, having those, like, very uncomfortable conversations. So I always say, I didn't choose this path. Meaning, like, of course, yes, I'm actively choosing this now, but I didn't actively seek out, like, I'm gonna help people, you know, like, how it came to me was I was on my own path. My background actually is, you're gonna find this of no surprise. Acting. I'm very shy. I'm a wallflower, as you can tell. But I was acting. And that was my, you know, that was in addition to, you know, survival jobs. And for me, how I found this work was, again, a need for myself. I had one of those, like, fall to your knees, come to Jesus years many times, but one that I really was like, oh, man. Like, I gotta help myself. And so this work was just about helping myself, helping my mom, who was recently at that time, diagnosed with cancer. And it was like, never in a million years did I think it'd be a career. Like, I was Like, I'm just trying to survive. I'm just trying to, God willing, one day thrive and. [00:02:16] Speaker A: Correct. Correct. [00:02:17] Speaker B: Right. Like, by the way, no, thank you. And I just made it. You know, it's so funny. I didn't realize what I was doing, but it was like I was accidentally starting coaching and I was at. And then, of course, I got trained and certified in this work, but I was like, having people over and being like, oh, no, we're just chatting. Or, oh, I'm having groups of people. Like, that's group coaching. That's coaching. Like, no, no, no, I'm an actress. Stop, stop, stop, stop. You know, so. [00:02:42] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah, yeah. [00:02:42] Speaker B: Like, I was like, I don't. But. But Cliff Notes is. I was. I was so passionate because I was like, wow, if I'm in the. The hardest time of my life at that time, and this work can help me, you know, be a little bit more at peace. Exactly. A cope. Like, oh, my God, I'll do whatever it takes to give this to other people that I care about. So it started from, honestly, a place. It sounds corny, but of. Of service. [00:03:06] Speaker A: Yes. Yeah. And, you know, I gotta ask though, is, you know, when you're going through your own trials and tribulations, did you seek help yourself or did it just kind of help organically where you're talking amongst friends and then it kind of. I know you got trained and certified and everything like that. Was there a gap where you sought out. And I don't want to get too personal, but that you were like, okay, let me see what the best practices could me for. Be me. Be for me. Excuse me. [00:03:29] Speaker B: And then go from there 100%. That's been one. So I've done a ton of. Right. Like certifications and courses and this, but I was like, I gotta walk my walk and talk my talk. And for me, that was, you know, whether it was through therapy or through coaching, like, I need support and. And I don't know about you, but I don't know, you could feel people when they read a book or whatever it is they read a book or they listen to a podcast and they regurgitate that information. And I was like, oh, that doesn't. Like, ugh, that feels sticky in my body. You know? So I was like, I gotta really do the work. I mean, yes. Like, I'm not going to be like, okay, hello, client, let's do this. I've never done it before, but, you know, good luck to you. [00:04:11] Speaker A: Right? [00:04:12] Speaker B: Exactly. [00:04:13] Speaker A: For me. [00:04:13] Speaker B: Yeah. I really had to get that. It felt Very important for me to get that support and to continue through my life to, to find support and community. [00:04:22] Speaker A: Wonderful. You know, and so, you know, when I was, you know, when I was looking it off, I, you know, I was on your website, you know, you're very authentic. You're very out there. And it seems like first of all, the question I have is, when you're helping people, do you see a demographic difference? Is it more women than men? Is it older, younger? So who seeks out your services? [00:04:40] Speaker B: I love that. Okay, so when I. One of the certification routes, I went through their big thing, as, you know, in business, you know, what's your audience? What's your audience? What's your audience? Of course, and folks were great and I commend them. They were great at being like, I pretend work with women in their 40s, I work with, you know, this demographic. And I was like, look down the line. I may want to do that, but I don't know, I just feel like everyone needs this. So I kind of am the anti, you know, anti. When they say like, who's your client avatar? I'm like, oh, like you're gonna hate my answer because. And there were, there has been times and seasons where it was pretend women their 40s or men in their 20. I'm making something up, right? [00:05:22] Speaker A: But right, right. [00:05:24] Speaker B: I don't know. For me, I've always been passionate about. I'm like, everyone needs this work. Like, we all humans need this support. So for me, I'm like, whoever kind of is attracted to the work, who's like, I can jam with Erica. I'm like, okay, great, let's, let's move forward. So I've had clients that have been early 20s to 75 year old women. I mean, across whoever's like, I feel called to this. I want support is who I feel. I'm like, please, let's do it, then let's jump in. [00:05:54] Speaker A: You know, that that's really helpful. Particularly obviously, the Internet has democratized a lot of things where people can reach out and not just go, you know, around the corner. And it's, it's opened up people's options to be able to speak with people. And that's a beautiful thing. What I was curious about is, is that, so how did you know when you're meeting on the couch with your friends or your jamming, so to speak, that you could turn this into a business? That was it. People like tapping you on the shoulder, like, you're really good at this. Like, no, you really need to turn the Corner on this. This is what I need it. And I don't know why you're not taking this to the next level, or was it kind of you on your own? [00:06:25] Speaker B: I think a little bit of both. But they were like, this is a coaching session, or this is, you know, this is. And I was like, no, no. And then again, I was just, if you will, like, chasing these coaching certifications from a place of like, I know people are saying this, but I want to learn for myself. I want to learn for myself. And then it became like, you know, so it was a little bit of. A little bit of both, honestly. [00:06:48] Speaker A: Okay. Beautiful, Beautiful. You know, and I was just curious about that because, you know, sometimes your friends, like, you know, it could be sports, could be acting, right? You're like, I don't know why, like, we're okay at this. You're really good at this. And you turn the corner. So I don't know why you're sitting there jamming with us when you should be doing this for a living, so to speak. Right? And it looks like. Right. So it looks like in 2013, that's when you. You transition. And you're also podcast coach. You're also a podcast host. Excuse me as well, too. [00:07:14] Speaker B: Definitely. Oh, I love it. So for me, my podcast is called welcome to the Weeder Life. Play on my last name, Weider Light. So welcome to the Weider Life. And for me, it's like, life, and some things are very sexual, empowerment focused, some are sensuality, some are pleasure, and some are just like grief, happiness, rest. Like, it's kind of encompasses life and all the different aspects through my. Through my voice, through my experience, and through my coaching. [00:07:41] Speaker A: Right. And so, you know, and it looks like you've also been on college campuses. You do work galas, bachelor parties. You also help people with just burnout, self confidence, and all these other different things too. So, you know, what stage do people come to you at in life? I got divorced. I'm out of college. You know, I'm having issues with my partner or just like, is there a. Is it a broad spect of things or is it just like, I just need somebody to talk to? [00:08:03] Speaker B: Totally everything. So it can be like, so it's like I am, you know, waving the flag or some people, you know, my favorite type of people are like, I'm gonna book this consultation. Like, I don't really need this. Like, everything's okay on paper. That's like the. I'm like, yes, I love getting people at that phase because I've Been there so many times being like, do I really need this? Like, everything's okay on paper. This is. Let me just do this free call with this. This crazy lady. You know what I mean? And then they're like, oh, like, oh, like, yes. Like, let's. Hello, let's go in. [00:08:36] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:08:36] Speaker B: So every phase, every fit. And that's the. I honestly, that's the beauty of it. I say to my clients, like, hey, you know the deal. I hold you when we are grieving, when we're in the depths of despair, but I also hold you when we're in the height of celebration, of life. Like, that's the, the beauty of this is through all the peaks and valleys, you know, this work is needed for sure. [00:08:55] Speaker A: Obviously. Do you, you're. You're. You're in Florida right now. Do, do you just. You get clients all across the country? Do you get people reach, like, where, where do people find you? Like, how big is your, is your reach to your people? [00:09:05] Speaker B: I would say all across the world. So I have clients, clientele, like, which is so cool, so interesting. Yeah. But I work with folks worldwide, which is amazing. [00:09:15] Speaker A: Touch lives across the globe. That's beautiful. That's what it's all about. Like, what's the, what's the tip? What. How does the intro call work with Erica? Because obviously, like, you're. You're high energy, and you may get that person that was like, I finally kind of had to reach out to somebody. I'm going to kind of, you know, for lack of a better term, like half blanket. But then you start actually start picking up the energy. Like, do you get those people that were kind of like dragged in there, so to speak, by their own inner conscious, and then finally, like, you're. They're matching your energy level when they see it, so to speak. [00:09:44] Speaker B: Totally. And you know, you know the deal, right? It's like, if people are like, I'm. This, this lady is 10 out of 10. Like, that's not my vibe. I match the vibes, you know, I mean, I'm like, I'm not going to make you cartwheel. Like, though I, you know, I'm naturally, like, caffeinated. Like, if you're like, I want to be more like, I match the vibes. [00:10:02] Speaker A: And you can match. [00:10:02] Speaker B: You said, yeah, yeah, I can match. I can match. Now. I'm just so psyched. But, But I know, you know, you said something about my burnout work too, right? Like, my burnout, my. [00:10:10] Speaker A: This. [00:10:11] Speaker B: It's so funny. It's like, what's so Cool. Why I love this work. Such an assortment of reasons, but I have the ability to. And the beauty of this work is that I can kind of shapeshift. So if it's like, hey, like, I want someone's high energy or someone's really low energy, or I could take this work into corporate, or I could take this work into no filter, you know, Bachelorette, you know, like, everything's on the table but corporate, you know, we're not talking about corporate's. More of the burnout conversation. And for sure, you know, so that's what. I love this work because for me, it's so fun to be like, okay, we know the bottom line. The root is the same. How do we speak, you know, or how do we bring this information to, you know, different. Different people or where they're at, or, you know, which is awesome, for sure. [00:10:58] Speaker A: Because obviously you have to inspire a large group of people to get towards a common goal. And it's no different than, you know, you acted. Right. So obviously it's an ensemble. You have to get everybody to get on the same page. Your personality didn't matter when we were doing the script reading. What matters is the quality of the production. The crowd wants to see a good performance. You have to put a gun on a good performance for either TV, film, commercial, theater, etc. Everything has to get put to the side for the common goal, to make something special happen. So, yeah, you know, and your client, more importantly, even you could be having a bad day, so to speak, but your client is coming to you with their respective either issues or highs or lows, and you have to be able to compartmentalize that to be able to give them a good experience. [00:11:41] Speaker B: It's so true. And that has been. Honestly, that is. I'm like, laughing. I'm like, yes. Because that has been so healing to, like, again, walk the walk and talk the talk. Because it's not about being fake. It's not being me. Like, yeah, like, I'm fine, you know, going through a devastation. Like, I'm fine now, but. But it has been a great practice of, like, right. You know, all right, like, hey, Erica, you're going to serve this person in 15 minutes. How? We don't have to be fake. We don't have to be phony. We don't have to be loving light if we're feeling crunchy. But. But I do have to. It is my job to be in integrity, to reset my nervous system, to. To hold space, to not bring my junk to the. To the zoom Room. Like, and that's been very healing for me as a human to just like. [00:12:22] Speaker A: Right. [00:12:23] Speaker B: Learn how to navigate that regularly. It's become now a habit. [00:12:27] Speaker A: Right. And you know, at the end of the day, like, they're coming to you. And you know, I say this respectfully. They're paying you for their services, right? [00:12:33] Speaker B: Absolutely. [00:12:33] Speaker A: Your service. Right. So if you're, they're, you know, you're there, you know, and at you bringing anything baggage wise, necessarily, I say that in quote, not directed at you, but it's like, that's not helping them. Right. Because then they're like, hello, Like, I'm carrying my coach because, you know, they're going through there. You know what I mean? They're like, wait a minute, you're sitting on the other end. Right, Right. Like, wait a minute, how's this relationship working out? Maybe I'm coaching them, you know, so to speak. [00:13:00] Speaker B: Exactly. [00:13:01] Speaker A: So that's awesome. So I do like. So here's the question. So you're a top 50 in yoga, you're top 100 in marriage, you're top 100 in dating when it comes to your podcast, which is amazing. So how did your training take place when it came to getting these certifications and how did you scale in podcasting? Two separate questions. [00:13:19] Speaker B: I love that. Oh, that's so good. Okay. So training is. I am just obsessed with learning and I have to slow down. And I have over the years because it's like, okay, like, go and go and teach now. But I just followed, like, the breadcrumbs of what lit me up, you know what I mean? And what felt right. So this sounds silly, but, you know, okay, I'm taking this certification and now I'm, you know, a sex, love and relationship coach. [00:13:43] Speaker A: Oh. [00:13:43] Speaker B: I'm learning my clients need to be more in their body. Great. Then I found myself with more of like, somatic teaching in the body. Great. Oh, you know what? It makes sense to get my yoga certification, like, just to learn more. Like, so they all kind of follow the breadcrumbs, you know, type. Type thing. It unraveled that way. And honestly. Okay, so I've had some strategy with the podcast, but for me, so I'm not going to say like, oh, it was. Sure there's some strategy there, of course. But for me, me being my very vulnerable, sometimes it's like, okay, like, you're in the room by yourself. It's like, okay, but people will be listening. Erica. So, but like, me being really authentic Lee myself was a big. So silly and such, like, you know, Stereotypical advice, but that, that really was what turned people on or really turned people off. But for sure, it was almost polarizing in a way, you know, which I think for me, right, like, it's like I'm, this is a no for me, or this is a yes. But what's cool and I'm teaching myself this lesson now is like, I'm more authentic on my podcast than like my social media, if that makes sense. Like, my social media is so cool. Right? You know, but it's like that, that is always a lesson of like, no. Like it's let really be yourself. And people will either be like, yes, tell me more, or love you. God bless. Not for me. [00:15:02] Speaker A: Well, I think that, you know, one of the things that inspired me to do this is to talk to people like yourself because, you know, ultimately people crave, you know, real experiences and they crave authenticity. And I think in the crowded space of the Internet, there's a lot of things that are tossed at us that, you know, oh, I'm the guru, I'm the expert. And then you can go down the wormhole and then you hear somebody Talk for like 20 minutes and they never actually talk about what they do, do they keep talking these very, very, like, yeah, you know, I'm, I'm the marketing guy, you know, and then you're like, what do you sell? What are you actually selling to somebody? What are you trying to get people to sign up for? But they don't tell you what they're actually doing. So, you know, it's, it's really crazy, right? Or now everybody's an influencer, right? Everybody's, you know, a subject matter expert, so to speak. And so one of the reasons I did this is because I wanted to, you know, kind of ultimately find out my own curiosity. I mean, I've talked to people from all across of the globe in various walks of life. And your energy, I have to match that now because I'm like, okay, this is, this is kind of on the cuff, on the fly. So this is really good for me to get a chance to talk to you. So I want to thank you for that, first of all. [00:16:05] Speaker B: Thank you. [00:16:07] Speaker A: And then the other part is, is that when you talk about these uncomfortable topics with people that are kind of like the pearl clutching talks, like, how does, how does that take place? Because obviously, you know, this is not a rated R show, so PG it up as much as you can. [00:16:20] Speaker B: Of course I will be. I will put my Disney V, put my, my Disney lens through. [00:16:24] Speaker A: Of course I appreciate that. Thank you. [00:16:27] Speaker B: You know, it's funny. As outgoing and as like, whoa. Like zany as I am, I am actually an introvert and. Which is shocking, but an introvert. But also I don't like to ruffle feathers, so. And I'm learning, right. Like sometimes you got to stand up for yourself. Like I'm learning those. Those tough lessons. But it's easier for. In the past, it's been easier for me to be agreeable and to swallow my tongue and be like, hehe. Like, I just want a piece. Like, let'. So for me, this has been an interesting lesson of like, no. Like, can I have. Can I have a normal job? Like, I don't want to be at a dinner party. And like, no. You know, so it's been a lesson, honestly, for me to be like. And again, right. You're in a room. You have to. You don't have to go full, full at like you could whatever match match tone, match match vibes. But yeah, it's been a big lesson for me to. [00:17:20] Speaker A: Right. [00:17:20] Speaker B: You know, to. To really be authentic in this and, and transparently, depending on the seasons, some season great. Like, I could be like, I could fully own this. And then sometimes in seasons, like I'm. I'm getting through a season right now or I just lost my father, like in a more griefy, terrible start here, you know. Thank you. Griefy season. It doesn't feel authentic for me to be like, met like, you know, like, it's. It's a little different. It's like, you know, like, hey, this is still the work, but you know, it's. It's a different flavor and how we're presenting it is different. So yeah, it's. That's been a ride, to be. To be honest. Like, that has been an interesting ride. [00:17:58] Speaker A: Sure. For sure. So you also help people that get through trauma as well too, you know? [00:18:02] Speaker B: Yes. [00:18:03] Speaker A: Without getting specifics obvious, because that's very personal for people. How do you help people get through that? Because one thing about trauma and loss is nobody's immune to it. And unfortunately, we've all lost people that are very close to us. And trauma can mean different things for different people. It can be an injury, it could be an illness, it could be suffering from a mental. How do you navigate those sensitive things with people that give you such personal information? [00:18:25] Speaker B: I love that. Yeah, I mean, I think you. You nailed it. First and foremost is creating that safety. Right. Is really quite important for me. And again, if some things, if I'm very transparent, like, hey, this is out of my scope or for this, you know, and some people, like, is it cool if I bring this part to my therapist and this too? I'm like, please, like, we are working. Like we are a community. We're working together holistically. Like, let's do it. So for me, I would say all the things come up, but a lot of my work is not only, like, you could say, like more like talk therapy or processing, but also in the body. So I may do exercises, like in the body, like a meaning, like a visualization. So I had a client once who. And you wouldn't think she's like, I wouldn't even think this is a trauma. But she was an older woman and she found we just did a very light, like, meditation and she, we, you know, I was asking her body, like, different, you know, different questions and she was like, oh my God, Erica. Like I just unlocked a memory. When I think she was like 7 years old and she was in her, her 70s and she's like, when I was like 7 years old and I'm okay, like, I could, I could hold this, but like, no wonder I have self confidence issues around my chest and my bed. Like, oh my God, like we found the roots, you know, like, that's where we found it. So for me, it's, you know, transparency of like, hey, like let's, you know, make sure we're. That I can. Am equipped enough to hold this first and foremost. But for me, right, Because I'm not gonna be like, yeah, like let's, let's make sure I'm aligned. [00:19:56] Speaker A: And there's levels of things at all, right? [00:19:58] Speaker B: There's levels. There is levels. And for me, I like when, if it is appropriate, if it's an appropriate match, I kind of hit it from different directions. Like I said, from the body, from the mind. You know, we hit it from different places, if that makes sense. [00:20:12] Speaker A: Right, right, it does. Because, you know, like, sometimes it's no different than if you go from urgent care to the er, right? They'll tell you, hey, we can handle scrapes and burns and, you know, mild illnesses, but listen, if you're having a heart attack, this is not the place to be. Right? So to speak. [00:20:27] Speaker B: 100. Yep. [00:20:29] Speaker A: You know what I mean? [00:20:29] Speaker B: No, that's so exactly right. [00:20:31] Speaker A: You know, and you know, and I'm sure you've had, had those conversations with people. Like, listen, there's that you, you need some real. And it's not in a negative way. I don't want to make no never condition, but it's like, listen, this is something very severe. You may need to get continual high level treatment for this specific condition as opposed to the trials of everyday life, so to speak. [00:20:52] Speaker B: Right, Absolutely. And that's what I say. I'm like, look, I would love to, but let's get you someone fabulous that's maybe a trauma therapist or like, let. Let me help you find resources that we could really, you know, support you. Maybe this is a conversation down the line, maybe it's not, you know. [00:21:06] Speaker A: Right, right. And then if they get that taken care of, then once they get to a certain level, then your services are better offered for them. Them in that particular scenario. [00:21:13] Speaker B: Absolutely. And I always say it's like, you know, it's a holistic picture. Again, I know I said this before, but people like, can I see a therapist or can I see a so and so? I'm like, absolutely, please. This is all. This is all interconnected. Let's. Whatever, you know, you have capacity for, whatever you can do that. It's all. It's all great for me. It's a plus. Absolutely. [00:21:33] Speaker A: How do people. Because there's been this push in the last really like five, ten years of like, hey, the mental is just as important as the physical. So how did. Did you find people? Because of the more acceptance, broader based of. It felt more comfortable now seeking out services than they did in the past when you first started. Because now, you know, it used to be like therapist or coach used to be a dirty word. Right. Now it's just become part of the everyday lexicon, so to speak. [00:21:57] Speaker B: It's. No, you. It's so true. Really. I think about it, I'm like, wow, I've been in this game kind of for a while now, and seeing the arc has been honestly fascinating. And for me, what's been most interesting is back in the day, it still was more, you know, you know, like, ooh, you know, people were like, oh, I'm interested. Oh, I'm gonna. It's kind of like, can I tell you a secret? And now I have to work at corporate offices. They're like, come on in, let's talk about mental health. I'm like, what? So that has been very interesting to. It used to feel very, you know, like, like behind closed doors. And now again, to be an executive coach for, you know, companies and for corporate has been. That's been. I mean, thank God. But that's been fascinating how it's been normalized. [00:22:42] Speaker A: Yeah. Before they tell the person to shut up. That's not in our budget before this. Now it's like, hey, you know, we really need to focus on this because we're have. I'm not equipped to handle these kind of questions from my staff, so to speak. Right, Totally, you know, for sure. And that's a beautiful thing. And so I gotta, I always ask everybody, and I ask my guest this because I'm not smart enough to do what you do. How do people find you? Where are you at? Like, where's your services offered? And it's not just, you know, you're not just a coach, you're not just a podcaster. You're. You're also help people reach their light and help people, you know, brighten their burden, so to speak. So where do people find Eric? [00:23:18] Speaker B: Oh, you're the best. So for me, I, as you know, we talked about in the beginning, right, I'm like, I really truly believe this work is for everyone. And it doesn't mean everyone is for me, but I mean everyone should have this accessibility. Everyone should have this knowledge. And whether it's like, I like this, not the Erica, great. I have people to recommend you to. You know what I mean? Like, I want, of course, of course, accessible. And like we're talking about, right, like normalized. That's right. Thank God mental health is becoming more normalized. I would love to continue the conversation even more making this work normalized. And that's pleasure, you know, even pleasure feeling good in your body. All, all of that. So with that being said, I love free resources because I want people to have a spot where they could say, a jumping point and say, cool. Like I can. This is where I want to go. So for me, I love free goodies, I love free resources. I actually have a free e book. What do I have? I have all the things. I have a free e book, I have the podcast and I have a blog and all of that is on my website, which is we the light.org and you could go in, right? It's a great. I never have to talk to this woman, but I could get, I could read her ebook, get the information, integrate it. Great, you know, like perfect. Or if people are like, I would like a little more, I don't know, like, maybe she could give me recommendations for people. I don't know if I want to invest. I know I do want to invest. Whatever. I also, like I talked earlier, I do offer free consultations and for me those are literally a coaching session. So it's great. Like, I'm like, why not? It's literally a 60 minute coaching session. We talk about if it jams. We talk about, you know, working together. Or if you're like, actually, I'm looking for someone. Fill in the blank. Or actually, I'm looking for fill in the blank. Great. Let me recommend, you know, let me recommend you to someone else. And that's also on my website, too. We the light dot org. So I like to think of myself as a hub. I'm like, I'm here. Like, what? You know, like, there's, there's, there's. I have, you know, options come to me, and I'm happy if you want to work with me. Thank God. If you're like, I would like to be outsourced to someone else. Let me help you. Or I'm looking for a free thing. I'm looking for this. Great. Come to me. I have plenty of resources. I'd love to. Whether it's with me or redirect you, it would be my honor. It's. That's. I really. That's when I really get down to the mission of my why and serving people. That's. I'm like, let's. Let's do it. That's that hub. So, yeah, that's where you could find me with the light dot org. [00:25:30] Speaker A: Well, I think it's very important also sometimes for a business or, you know, you, obviously, you're your own business, even though you're Erica, to sit back and say that I am. It's okay for you not to work with me. Right? [00:25:41] Speaker B: And yes, totally. [00:25:42] Speaker A: You know, and I think that's a. That's a big thing because, you know, knowing when to. I have a funnel, and if we don't fit inside this funnel, that's okay. And sometimes, as you know, it's just like me hosting this podcast. I'm not for everybody. Way like. And so getting that in your mind sometimes can be kind of hard because then it starts to feel like either rejection or to your point with you teach inadequacy. And then you're like, well, that's okay. My podcast isn't for everybody that wants to be on here. I've got good guests and I'll have to live in my lane, respectively, so to speak. [00:26:11] Speaker B: I love it. And you know what? It also, for me, it's. It's like you said, it's. We're here for the mission. Right. So it's like, whether it's through me or someone else. And I love with how you brought about the inadequacy piece. No, it's just we might not be a fit, but this work is still for you, right. Like you're supposed, you're allowed to have mental health, you're allowed to thrive. That doesn't mean it has to be through me and you. Right. And as a business. Exactly right. It's been a fabulous lesson for me about like scarcity, that I don't have to be like, oh, I'm going to take everyone. It's like, oh, no. Like, no, exactly. I want to really serve these folks. Like we, we're doing deeply as, you know, deeply, deeply personal stuff. They need to feel safe. I need to feel safe. That is so out of integrity. If I'm just like, yeah, it's fine, come on in. Like, no, like they need to go with someone that they can breathe and feel safe with. You know the deal. Yeah, it's been a beautiful lesson. [00:27:04] Speaker A: Right. And so, you know, and that's kudos to you because obviously there was no really manual or hands or script, so to speak. You had to kind of figure that out on your own, say, okay, well, you know, that's just one, that's just, you know, better or better offer someone else's services that can provide that tailor made for your specific needs. So, yeah, you know, I got to tell you, this has been, I wish I didn't have, you know, a time constraint to talk to you because I know that there's obviously a limited window of how long we can talk. So anything else you want to add before we, you know, have to unfortunately depart each other's company? [00:27:35] Speaker B: I love this. This was such a great convo. Yeah, I'll give a. I'll, I'll make a total left turn. But I think this is important because it's important to my work. But I, again, I guess the thing that I want to say is this work is for everyone. And what that means is you're allowed to have, you know, rich mental health and you're allowed to have pleasure. And what I mean by pleasure is pleasure is simple. Can simply be really sitting at that cafe or really sitting in that place and enjoying the jazz music or being with a loved one and enjoying a laugh, whatever it may be. Right. But we're all allowed to have that. And so how I would, you know, my mission is to help people feel safe, to have that more and more and more in their life. Have that goodness. Right. Because the, the tough stuff still comes. Like we're not putting a, you know, the tough stuff is still, Excuse me, it's still going to come. So, you know, my parting message is if you can, I invite everyone to just like start to think about, like, how can I invite more goodness in? Even through trials and tribulations, even through. And it's not a place of saying all is well, I'm going to wipe away my problems. No way. No way. But even through sticky times and hard times and crunchy times, how can I nourish myself? And how can I just fight for, for half an inch, a little bit more joy? And not from a place of bypassing, not from a place of avoiding, but how can I find a little bit more peace and a little bit more joy in my life? Because we all deserve that ultimately. [00:29:00] Speaker A: And the fact that you're, you know, guiding people towards that through all stages of life, you know, whether it's through partners, relationships, trauma, work related and for positive things like celebratory of getting a wedding party where people can be their true selves. Everybody works hard and all they want is a little bit of joy in their lives, you know, and it goes a long way. It'll definitely, you know, impact you because you only got one life on this earth. [00:29:19] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:29:20] Speaker A: I got to tell you, this has been a blast. You know, it was. I appreciate the PG language on the front podcast because I'm sure I say that respectfully because I'm sure there's some things you've said on other ones that you haven't said on here. [00:29:32] Speaker B: Oh, yes, yes. I was good. I was. [00:29:36] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah. And I could tell you're fighting it. I can see it fighting, you know what I mean? I can see you fighting it. So I appreciate know I got to tell you, Erica, so I'll be checking out your site and I hope know you had an enjoyable experience on this show. [00:29:47] Speaker B: The best. Thank you so much. Seriously. [00:29:49] Speaker A: Appreciate you. Talk to you soon. [00:29:50] Speaker B: Thank you.