Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] Speaker A: Listeners of the Triumph podcast, this is your host, Rashad Woods. I'm very excited today for this special guest who came over over from California as a guest. He is involved with children's youth and now inspiring the next generation of Latino leaders. He's going through trials and tribulations himself, so he knows exactly the space that he's coming from when he's giving his advice. He's a public speaker, and more importantly, he's a great human being. Raltu Pereira, how you doing, sir?
[00:00:26] Speaker B: Good, good. Rashad, it's good to see you. I am so honored to be on your show. I think you overall, your podcast has a very positive message. So I am among giants. I saw some of your guests and I'm humbled and honored to be here.
[00:00:42] Speaker A: I appreciate that. You know, I got a chance to really look at your background and I was very inspired because you took what would have crushed a lot of people and you turned it into something positive and you made a very good act for of yourself. And more importantly, you spread messages. All your, your links are very uplifting and basically saying you are not defined by your limitations of your own self. So please tell your background first.
[00:01:08] Speaker B: Okay, well, my background is this. Here's the thing, right? Because for the longest time, and it's human nature, for the longest time, I was stuck in old beliefs, in old stories. I like to tell people. It's the stories we tell ourselves, right? So my origin story really began in East Los Angeles, California. And the hard part is this because, you know, still gives me chills, but it also gives me strength. I grew up in a household of alcoholism. You know, my father is and was, you know, was and is still is an alcoholic. So you can only imagine as a little child, you know, you grew up in survival mode. And it's really, there's the psychology behind that. There's really, it's post traumatic, you know, growth and efforts that I'm, I'm now benefiting from. But at the moment, you know, I didn't know if I was going to get the loving, caring version or if I was going to get the violent alcoholic who tore our house apart, you know, and really made it miserable for mom and my two siblings. And I was the youngest one. I was always hopeful, but I knew, I always remember growing up, it was either one extreme or the other. It was either love or fear.
And that messes with you.
You know, it's traumatic, right?
And if you can think about post traumatic, right.
[00:02:27] Speaker B: Symptoms, right, it's, it's drip by this Was drip by drip, year by year, year by year. And. And that really takes its tolls because I was able to, as a young man, be guarded, you know, because I was developing a survival skill, really, if you think about it, right. From a reptilian brain sense of talk. I was really good at surviving, really good at not showing love, because I had this assumption that if I show love weakness, it's. It's never gonna last. Yeah, it's not gonna last.
[00:03:00] Speaker A: Right, right.
[00:03:01] Speaker B: And. And the other thing was the protective pattern I developed was like, well, if I let people in, they're gonna hurt me.
[00:03:09] Speaker A: Yeah, it was cocoon you wrapped yourself in.
[00:03:12] Speaker B: Yeah, totally. And exactly that cocoon was. Was safety. Right. It was being safe, being able to survive. And. And. And then it turned out as I started becoming a teenager and a young adult, where, yeah, I started binge drinking. I started being away Thursday through Sunday. You know, everybody knew, like, oh, Raul's not around Thursday through Sunday because he's a big party freak. Yeah, I took on that identity because I didn't want to be around the household. And then I continued that, some would say a destructive pattern of living in terms of social life, drinking, partying. But I also was looking for more escape. So I started achieving more. I started going through, you know, academics and became an A student, became a dean's list guy, became the graduate student, you know, started managing, you know, just going, taking off. And everybody was like, wow, dude, you're. You came up from an effed up background and look at what you're doing.
[00:04:05] Speaker A: Right?
[00:04:06] Speaker B: But guess what, Rashad?
[00:04:07] Speaker A: Inside still hurting.
[00:04:10] Speaker B: Oh, my goodness, my brother. I felt like an imposter inside.
[00:04:14] Speaker A: Isn't that crazy? Isn't that absolutely bonkers, right? That the people who are looking around you say that you're successful. You. You have everything going for you, and inside you're like, you don't really know. You really have no idea. Right. And that is such an odd. You know, I don't want to say cross to carry, but it's a heck of a burden in life from the outside looking in and say, I'm really not that happy.
[00:04:37] Speaker B: And you know what the twisted part, you know, like, I love the way you said it, you know, burden to carry. The twisted part is the more I heard people say, wow, you really got it together, Raul. Or I am so happy that you survived and you're really doing something out of your.
The more I felt like I had to continue to uplift that image, and it was fake.
But. But let me throw a little Bit more at you then. Just so I think that our listeners. So you're out there, you can be like, okay, well, yes, you know, welcome to the world, Raul. It's crew and whatnot. It is. But. And it will continue to be cruel unless you do something about it.
So fast forward 21. December 2021. We were visiting friends in the Bay Area over here in California, like, San Francisco area.
And. And I had a severe case of appendicitis gone sideways.
Multiple hospital visits, multiple surgeries, and I had a PICC line. I was being fed through a PICC line for three months in bed. It was. It was horrendous.
[00:05:42] Speaker B: And laying between the walls of the hospital and in bed. And throughout the time of healing, I had a lot of thinking. A lot. I mean, a lot of thinking to do and a lot of crying. I cried so much because when I was at the hospital, initially, when we were visiting friends, it was around this time, actually, in December, it was during COVID and I was up on the eighth floor, I believe, and I was looking down at the window, and I was looking at my two children with their raincoats and their little boots waving up at me.
[00:06:13] Speaker A: And it was Christmas Day, and there you are.
[00:06:15] Speaker B: And that.
That crushed me, man, that day, Rashad. I was in bed, and for the first time, I just cried and didn't want to numb the pain. I didn't want to run away from it, plow through. I sat with it. I sat with it.
I sat with it.
[00:06:33] Speaker A: Oh, my gosh. I mean. Yeah, you know, and, you know, the reality about it is, is that, well, you know, everybody gets to celebrate their holidays. Obviously, people. You always look at it from two perspectives. Number one, I should be out there. Number two, there are people who have it worse than me because I'm cognizant. I'm aware some people can't even open their eyes. But at the same time, in your personal life, it's like, okay, you know what? This is. This is rock bottom. This is as bad as it got for me. And so now we're gonna open up door number two. Because the reality about it is, is that there are second chapters in life, right?
[00:07:06] Speaker B: Absolutely.
[00:07:07] Speaker A: The company that I created for this podcast is called Second Half Promotions. Right? And the reason I call it Second Half Promotions is because I'm in the second half of my life, you know? You know, so I look at it as, you know, athletics notwithstanding, you can change and you can be involved with things. You know, your soccer or your football career is over. That. That ship has sailed. But your personal and professional well being can accelerate.
[00:07:33] Speaker B: Yes, yes. And I'm glad you went there, because that's exactly what happened to me. I've had.
[00:07:40] Speaker B: An awakening, a second chance, like you said in there.
I had a profound, deep thought.
[00:07:50] Speaker B: And then I went all in.
So the thought was this.
I was reflecting of all the crappy situations in my life and. And how I always was, like, why me?
You know, like, man, you know, it's like alcoholism in my life. And I finally found the love of my life. We have two beautiful children, and now I'm in. You know, like, what's is this about? What is this what really life's about?
Like, I want to be there for my kids, you know, and it sucks.
[00:08:20] Speaker A: Right?
[00:08:20] Speaker B: And.
And then I had the light bulb moment. Was, you know what, Raul?
[00:08:27] Speaker B: This just didn't happen to you. You know, all of it, you know, this didn't happen to you.
It happened for you, right?
And it happened for me to make sense and to start giving meaning to my experiences and to my past.
And that was my wake up moment. Because as soon as I started to heal, I went all in on psychology and learning. You know, my background is in leadership. It's in human resources.
Learning, learning and development. So I already know kind of the way humans developed in terms of a learning environment. And there was always something missing. And that missing link was the internal transformation.
[00:09:10] Speaker A: Right.
[00:09:10] Speaker B: You know, that's when that light bulb came out.
[00:09:12] Speaker A: Well, it's funny you say that, because I was going to talk about your background. You didn't come from a place of, like, you know, like, you're educated in the field of human development and, you know, betterment, you know, professionally and standards and things of that nature. But a lot of times, you know, from experience and just life, you have to live those words that you're speaking. Right. It really sounds like a cliche, but it's like, you know, hey, think positive. Hey, you know, be slow to anger. Hey, you know, observe, listen. All those things, it sounds like corny things because they look like bullet points when you actually read about them. But to actually practice this is very difficult. It's extremely difficult.
Yeah.
[00:09:51] Speaker B: Yeah. Oh, my goodness. I think we're cut from the same class.
[00:09:55] Speaker A: I'm not gonna say. I'm not gonna say I've lived by it. But, you know, when you do occasionally, like, find yourself not doing those things, you're like, dang, man, I actually reacted in the way that I was supposed to.
[00:10:08] Speaker B: You surprised yourself.
[00:10:09] Speaker A: You know, like, wow, that actually, you know, by not doing something stupid, you know, just to veer off like driving. There can be something so simple as driving in your car. Is it really worth. If somebody cut you off to get back at. Is it like really, like, is the 5 seconds or 20 seconds or 2 minutes that you could have got it back worth your life?
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
[00:10:30] Speaker B: And I think this is why I'm, I'm so happy I'm here. Because I think, you know.
[00:10:37] Speaker B: I'm able to come from a place of now, I'm able in the last four years in terms of my own personal growth and transformation. I'm able to come to a place where I'm actually happy. And I'm thrilled with gratitude. And again, honestly, I am so.
I am grateful that I grew up with an alcoholic. I am grateful that I went through this health emergency and I was out for three, four months. I am grateful it happened for me. Because with that insight, if I was unable to look into that invisible bag, I call it, right, that I was carrying as a child and as an adult, that bag is heavy, man. You carry it with you. And there's truth behind this idea is like, oh, you do that that woman or that man comes with a lot of baggage. Right? That's exactly it. It's the metaphor. And, and when I talk about bag, I talk about the, the beliefs, right? The. And then that's the B and the A is the assumptions that hold up those beliefs. And then the G is the guardians, is the protective behaviors that manifest because of the beliefs and the assumptions. And for me, you know, I shared some of those limiting beliefs as a kid. Like, I, if I trust people, they're going to hurt me, so I'm not going to trust anybody.
[00:11:54] Speaker A: Well, I think the other thing that happens to us, I didn't have a background like yours, but I think what, what can happen to people is, is that I've said it before. You get zip coded in life, right? So your zip code ultimately becomes your world. And so your beliefs start being shaped by your ultimate surroundings, regardless of where you live. And so you start putting limitations because you know exactly your environment like the back of your hand. You can drive somewhere and not even know how you actually got there. Name the street you're turned on. You probably could, you know, name, you know, the specific area where something. But you have a point of reference. So we've become conditioned to things that are familiar to us. And so typically speaking, you know, you reach a stage in life where, you know, as a kid, you're curious, but sometimes in stages of adulthood, you get less curious and you become more safe. You know, in your case, it was at a younger age. But people tend to gravitate towards things that make them safe. And the unknown is very difficult. And I say this as a martial arts analogy because I have a black belt in Martian, in karate. Right. And yes, you're supposed to try to diffuse a situation. You're supposed to always walk away. I'm not advocating violence on any level, but if you do have to defend yourself, the first thing they tell you is to walk towards the danger.
Right. That means like, because it's analogy of a baseball bat, it's much better to get hit with somebody starting to swing than at the tip of it. The wind up is what hurts you. Actual, you know, the full completion of a swing hurts you. The wind up, you have a chance to stop. So you're supposed to come in and stop that baseball bat from hitting you.
[00:13:28] Speaker B: Yeah, that's a, that's a great analogy, my brother, because for me, it speaks to what I teach and what I, what I believe in now. It's, it's, it's like behavior is contagious. It's in your zip code. Right. So if you surround yourself with toxic people, or if in my case, I'll be honest with you, before I met my, my lovely wife, my circle was more alcoholics, My circle was more party animals. My circle was women or in relationships, and no disrespect to my wife, but being in a relationship where let's just stay, watch a movie and get drunk out of our faces, because that was my wind up, that was my safety, that was my what I knew, that's like my identity. And, and what I'm, what I'm grateful for now is that I've discovered that I'm the author of my identity. I'm the author of those bags that I've carried. I have the power, you know, and it's again, it's the initial awareness and the wake up call that we know people have dreams and we know that, that especially people in leadership who want to make a difference in others. And they're leading great folks and they have great missions.
They want to show up, but then, you know, they still look at people in a negative light or they come with empty hearts or not necessarily showing up as who they really are because they're not confident because they have these stories. Right. The wind apart. I love that analogy. It's like you have, you know, plow through it. A condition. Yeah. The con being conditioned so much in your life that this is all, you know, so this is how you're gonna show up.
[00:15:14] Speaker A: Yeah. And I thought it was interesting when I was looking at your Instagram Prof. You said, you know, one of the ways you overcome is I belong in this room. I belong to be sitting at this table, you know, even the most confident. You know, you've heard CEOs that'll say privately, man, I was really. I was insecure the first time I got into a leadership position because I didn't believe that I belonged in that room. So sometimes what happens is, is that if you do come from humble beginnings, right, you look at people who are successful, and then let's say you start breaking through and you're in, you know. You know, you didn't. I don't want to. To bash anybody's background, but let's say you had to really, like, get to a certain point to get in a certain room. And you're like, man, I didn't have a parent that was a VP or didn't have a parent that was at a high level. And, you know, now I'm in this room with all these smart people, so to speak, and I came from, you know, East Los Angeles, and I'm like, am I really supposed to be amongst this group of people? Because, like. Like, these are the unicorns. And I'm. You know what I'm saying? Like, people can have. Yeah, right. Like, it's like, if you didn't go to the prep school to get to the college, you know, athletics, and then next, you know, you were at a smaller school, and you're like, am I really supposed to be here with all these prep skids? And, you know, you can get secretly insecure about your own skill set, you know?
[00:16:24] Speaker B: Absolutely. And I think this is why I'm so happy. Again, I'm so grateful, because if. If I don't have the awareness to look at my bag, right, look at my baggage and actually look at all the. The leaps and jumps and successes I've had in my life, you know, that's the proof that I've done it before and that I can actually succeed in life, and I actually belong. Because if once I am able to look at those stories that I carry with me in my bag and. And give them new meaning because it happened for me or it happens for you, then I'm able to say, yeah, I actually do belong. I made these. These. These big jumps in my life, and I went to the schools and I. I took my lickings, I took my. I Earned my seat at the table because this is, this is my, my. The record shows that I have. I've done this. The problem becomes when our beautiful people, you know, we're human, right? The problem becomes when. When we're, we're def. We allow the old stories to hold us back, to keep us stuck to, to, you know, and not really take that leap or to stay, feel, you know, stay. Continue to feel like a fraud. It's like, I don't really belong here. And that's when you get spiral down.
[00:17:37] Speaker A: Well, you know, I'm going to talk about your RTP learning in a minute. But it's almost like, like, you know, in martial arts, I would never learn from an instructor who never said they got their butt whooped. I would never.
Personally, I could never train under anybody who told me with a straight face, I never got smoked. I would be like, you know, that's because it's impossible. It's impossible. It is categorically. If you have any. If you are an instructor and you are teaching, I don't care what style it is, if you say you never got smoked, hey, man, when I first got in, I thought I was athletic, right? So it's like life, like, you can coach people because you're not like, hey, man, I didn't just put a plaque on a wall. Take an online course and listen to YouTube and tell you a bunch of inspirational words. You could be like, listen, man, dude, I had an alcoholic father. I went through some, you know, the proverbial S word. And I can tell you from a pure place what the other side is like. And this is why this is gonna work for you to avoid that. So it's the same analogy, man. Don't, don't tell me you know that you can instruct me in martial arts. You're like, yeah, I never got. I never got clocked and got my bell rung. It just doesn't work like that. It doesn't work like that.
[00:18:40] Speaker B: No, it doesn't. And I love it. And this kind of merges to, to my own real, my other lived reality as a quote unquote professional working in human resources and, and what we call learning and development and even teaching. I was teaching for about four years as an instructor part time, but I always was in front of people in terms of teaching or training. And the part that you're talking about is a lot of people or a lot of CEOs or in leadership would say, here, Raul, just give me the shortcut, give me the quick fix, give me the Checklist. We're going to throw training at the problem. And I knew back then that you know, okay, we'll do it.
You're paying me to train. I'm gonna take your check. I'm gonna train you on the top 10 qualities that make hard for you.
[00:19:27] Speaker A: To have a conversation with that person that wants an immediate result and say, listen man, you know you can, you're.
[00:19:33] Speaker B: Gonna get beat up.
[00:19:34] Speaker A: Yeah. I'm just gonna tell you right now, like, man, you know, like, hey man, let's just put this food straight to market. It's like, nah man, you know, we really need to test to see if it has allergens involved with it. You know what I mean?
[00:19:43] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:19:43] Speaker A: This is not going to end well if I don't at least like food test this food.
[00:19:48] Speaker B: Absolutely. That's, you know, your analogy about martial arts. It's like, you know, and, and now knock on wood. I am so again grateful and thankful to the good Lord that I can choose and pick who I want to work with. I don't, I'm not chasing money. And that's part of my chapter two, right. There's no need. I come with gratitude, abundance minded that I'm going to work with the person who understands that internal transformation is where it starts.
[00:20:14] Speaker A: Right.
[00:20:15] Speaker B: If you need, if you want to have, if you want to express your success and externally and be able to lead a team or scale your company or whatever your goal is that you will, you will have a better opportunity to do that with a self centered, clear.
[00:20:33] Speaker B: Inner transformation. So you're super crystal clear on who you are, how you show up and who you're taking with you is what I remember seeing in my, my trainings where now where, where what I end up talking about is like you can, I'm gonna get a little bit nerdy here but you cannot solve what we call adaptive mental problems with technical solutions because that's what our current training systems like. It's like throw a check, give them more just AI, you know what I mean? It's like, like you can't do that. It's like you must provide adaptive solutions to adaptive problems. So this is what, this is where I'm at today. It's like once you learn to become an author of your own stories, you, you're becoming an adaptive master. You're, you're learning the moves of becoming more and more adaptive and that's the person who's going to win.
[00:21:27] Speaker A: Well, I think that you know, when I was looking at some of the testimonials of Your coaching. I think a lot of people, you know, are seeking services that you provide.
So can you talk about like, you know, the services you provide, the type of people that reach out to you and even, you know, to a degree, what the introductory call really would be about, what stage somebody would be at when they reach out.
[00:21:45] Speaker B: Sure, sure, sure. Great, great. Thank you. So there's a couple of things. One is I, I don't advertise it as heavily, but I love training and I do provide strategy and or training to organizations of all sizes, usually virtual. And it's, it's learning and development and it's really having my style is the behavioral outcomes. Like if there's no. If the outcome of the training is just more tactics, then that's not, I'm not your guy. But if you want the training to actually be more behavioral change, then I am your guy, you know, so that's one, number one. And number two, where I'm really going all in is on one on one coaching. You know, I'm doing a lot of this part time because I work with my, I stay home with my kids in the afternoons are, my time is dedicated to the kids. And you know, if you have kids, you have to be on them.
[00:22:32] Speaker A: Right, right.
[00:22:32] Speaker B: Yeah, exactly. So, so my mornings are dedicated to one on one coaching. And, and what I'm doing now is I get a lot of pleasure out of it. This is part of my purpose, my calling. When I make the one, when I do the one on one coaching, I see the dramatic transformation of people and of individuals. So one of the things that, that I'm doing now is I allow or not allows, not the right word. I provide people with a five day experience.
Yeah. So it's not necessarily a call, but it's, it's, you know, I have a landing page but, or at least a conversation because I want people to be like, you know what, Raul, I like your vibe. I'm dealing with my own demons. You know, I have this imposter syndrome and I really want to become more effective and more confident in how I show up.
Then, then I have a five day challenge. It's 30, 30 minute call each day and it's, it's a challenge to see how much can you transform in five days. Because the transformation is what happens with your belief systems. And that's the introductory, it's a free offer that I give the listeners. And at that point at day five, I was like, if you want to continue to work with me, then this is what it would look like if not, hey, congratulations, five days of transformation. I love you. I want to see you grow. I want to see your success. Because I'm here to serve.
[00:23:53] Speaker A: Well, it's funny you say five days, right? Because you'll ask anybody. Everybody will take that intro call, right? Like, it's all cool, it's free, no problem. Do four more straight days of that, right? So like, it's the same thing. Like, you know, it's like the New Year's resolution at the gym. Everybody's got the brand new clothes that still have from last year that still have the tags on them, right? I mean, like the brand new shoe. You could tell, like I'm just, listen, I'm far from a fit Adonis, right? But you know, I do go to the gym regularly. And you know exactly what happens between New Year's Eve and like Valentine's Day, it's like all brand new. This is the new me. And then like as soon as the weather breaks, it's like, I'm not. And I'm not judging. Like, God knows I'm not. Yeah. Having said that, sticking with it is hard.
Sticking with it, I don't care what it is. The five day coaching is hard. Sticking with the workout is hard. Eating vegetables and putting away the potato chips is hard. It's supposed like, it, like it really, like when I, when there was a sign at the Jiu Jitsu place that I trained, I do, I do karate much better than Jiu Jitsu. Full disclosure. And it says, embrace the suck. Like you literally, like the old adage of, listen, this is what I've started to learn. If something sucks but it's working out for your benefit, stick with it.
[00:25:03] Speaker B: I love it. And that's what behavioral change is about, right? If I didn't go there, if I didn't start unpacking the story that I was always going to be a victim of an alcoholic parent, I would never have quit, I quit drinking. I would never have used that limiting story and transformed it into something that gave me energy and rocket fuel, right? Because now this bag that I carried is my jet. Because I like, I'm flying. I'm flying. It's beautiful. And this is, and this is why I, I love being on shows like yours because we get to talk about the real things, right? Like, we'll talk up here, surfacey, technical things. But then, oh, let's go a little deeper because this is what, you know.
[00:25:43] Speaker A: The problem is it's actually not that complicated, right? If you actually break it down to its, it's to Its core elements. It's not that difficult. Like, right? So, like, stay away from the complaint. Like, you know, like anybody who's ever read the 48 laws of power, right? They'll tell you the. One of the chapters in there. I can't think of the chapter. Stay away from the unlucky. Right? I know it sounds like a cliche. Literally, you. If there is a person who always somehow finds themselves in something and you. Some. At some point, it ain't. It's got to be them.
And maybe it's you, right? And then you sit back and say, how did this end up? And to your point, it was a hospital bed with. I'm not saying medical conditions don't happen, but at that moment when you're waving to your kids on Christmas, you'd be like, if I did anything to contribute to me sitting here at this moment and not being outside, then it's up to me to fix it.
[00:26:33] Speaker B: Yeah. You know, it's funny you said that. It is easy, but it's also. It's also difficult for many people because it is. It's identity based. Like Raul, you're asking me to let go of all my alcoholic friends who love to party Thursday through Sunday.
What are they going to think about me? It doesn't even matter. It doesn't matter. It's. It's taking that step and saying, I'm willing to elevate my standards and. Because I'm becoming a better person, and if I fall below those standards and I'm falling back to those old patterns, and then who do you have to blame?
At some point, you can't. I have to stop blaming my father. I have to stop blaming my circumstances and my situations and my friends. At some point, you got to be like, shoot, there's nobody else to blame.
[00:27:18] Speaker A: I remember yourself. I was listening to a quote from Andre Ward. I don't know if you know who Andre Ward is. Former light heavyweight, middle super middleweight champion. Box.
[00:27:25] Speaker B: Okay.
[00:27:25] Speaker A: He was, you know, he. He turned his life around. He said he was in the streets of Oakland doing things he wasn't supposed to be doing. And he's like, it's funny. My circle got smaller when I stopped doing terrible things.
[00:27:35] Speaker B: And I love it. I love it. That's exactly it. It's okay.
[00:27:38] Speaker A: He was like. It was funny. He was like. As long as I was doing the destructive things, I had a lot of people around me. But as soon as I changed my life around, he was like. All of a sudden it was like, why you want to do that? And he's like, it just got smaller and smaller and smaller because to your point, you know what you're trying to do, a very smaller circle of people are willing to do what you're trying to do.
[00:27:58] Speaker B: And this is why I'm able to say it's a free challenge that I give you because, you know, again, no disrespect to nobody, I love you. I haven't met you, but I love you because I've been there.
It takes a lot of courage to be like, shoot. Well, first of all, okay, this guy, I vibe with this guy, but I'm not there yet, so I'm not going to take him up on the offer. Or, you know, someone's like, shoot, I'm gonna take, you know, I think I'm ready. I think I'm sick and tired of being an imposter and that's the person I want to work with. And again, we're, we're all tippy toeing, you know, it's human nature. I was there.
[00:28:35] Speaker B: There's a, there's a difference between, like, like, oh, yeah, I know, I have a problem. Blah, blah, blah, blah. Okay. That there is a difference between being able to articulate that and acknowledge that and then execute.
[00:28:46] Speaker A: Yeah. And listen, you know, I probably, people are probably sick of hearing this on the show. I said I literally found out, like, I was active but not in shape because it finally took like the visual of what I actually look like to realize, like, you're not actually committed to getting yourself in the best shape possible because you still eat like trash. And so. Right.
[00:29:03] Speaker B: I love it.
[00:29:04] Speaker A: And like, when you actually start eating right and you actually start, you know, and you see the results, you're like, well, damn, if I'd have did this 10 years ago, I could have been, it could have been like this a lot. But, like, I was lying to myself. Like, you were literally fooling. Oh, man, I can eat all this and still, you know, do a two hour, three hours, four hours worth of workouts. But I'll, I'll look a certain way as long as I turn in the mirror the right way. And you're like, nah, man, that ain't it. Like, no, you really do have to eat like avocados and eggs and almond butter and broccoli and cauliflower. You know, it really is, you know, it sucks.
[00:29:36] Speaker B: Absolutely.
It does. But Rashad, you actually, again, you hitting it on the nail because we are committed to the identity of what we're doing. Like, you show me your results and I'm going To be able to know who you are. You show me your calendar. You show me where you're committed to. You might say you committed to going to the gym, but if you're out there eating that donut on. You're committed to eating that donut because you're. You know what I mean?
[00:30:03] Speaker A: The calendar, right? Because, like, you'll find out when you actually, like, if you're actually trying to do things that are successful. If you ain't got a calendar, you ain't serious. Like, you.
You. Like, I'm gonna tell you right now, because anybody who's tried to freestyle, it's bombed epically, right? Like, you cannot. You cannot accomplish anything that you want to accomplish if you don't have calendars. That is the first step is putting it with the reminder when you want to take a nap. And that alarm is going to go off and you're going to be like, damn, I really didn't want to do that. But once you start structuring yourself, then you'll be like, you'll start looking two or three days ahead. Do I need to modify that? Do I need to change that? This is upcoming. I can't miss this thing. Okay, I can push this back, and that's okay. But you have a plan.
[00:30:50] Speaker B: Absolutely. And I think the more you're able, you know, like, habits and all that, it is. It sucks, you know, it's hard. But I promise you, whatever frameworks you end up using for your. For your own transformation, the more you stick it through and you start automatic.
What's the word I'm looking for? Putting in a calendar to use your words, the more consistent you're going to be at looking for the results or going after the results you're looking for.
And pretty soon you're gonna really identify yourself like, well, I'm somebody who goes to the gym. I'm not somebody who breaks down and starts drinking alcohol or eating the sugary snacks. Because that's not who I identify with anymore. You're not going to vocalize that, but that's what's happening internally, right?
[00:31:32] Speaker A: And I always, you know, you know, for everybody who's. Who will always say, you know, they're too busy. I'll always say this like, you know, if you ever find yourself in front of the Shark Tank crew, don't ever say that sentence.
Like, if you ever, like, you know what I'm saying? Like, you can't. Those words can't come out your mouth, man. Like, you know, like, see you later. If you like the first word. If you're having a life changing experience or you're trying to change your life and it's an opportunity. Don't ever let the words I'm too big. You will. You better find time. I don't care if you have to, you know. Yeah, you might miss some NFL on Sunday. Yeah, you might miss the big college game. You may even have to if how bad you want it. Miss a birthday, a family get together, you know, you're that really big event you were looking forward to. But if you want it bad enough, I'm telling you right now, like, don't ever say you're too busy because those words can't come out of your mouth.
[00:32:18] Speaker B: And here's the other one too. And you'll, you'll, you, you'll identify with this. It's like, oh, well, I really want to learn martial arts, but I don't have the money, right? Or, or whatever. Like, I want us do soft development, but I don't have the money. If you want it bad enough, you're gonna, you're going to borrow some money.
You wanted those, you wanted those 20 inch rims on your, you know, cutlet supreme. Shit, those were $5,000 rims right there.
You know what I mean? You put that on credit and you're still paying for it. Like that has nothing to do with your self development.
[00:32:51] Speaker A: Coach may say, listen, you're a good kid. I may need you to sweep the gym, right? Like, okay, like, you know, I need you to show me your report card every single week. You know, here's my mom, I got to learn this man. Like, you know, and they'll say, okay man, you know, normally I charge this, but you know, now if you quit on me, then I'm gonna have a problem, but if you stick it out, I'll work a deal out with you. You know what I mean? Like it really? And that's one of the reasons why, you know, when it came to this podcast, I was so adamant about talking to people like yourself. Because these are the stories that I'm making on tv. These are the businesses that are, There are stories and corners of the earth that I believe that were worthy of. You know, my own personal interest in getting similar people like yourself on here. So I've always asked this of every guest and I will continue to ask this. How can people find Royalty Parade?
[00:33:33] Speaker B: Yira, that name.
[00:33:36] Speaker B: It'S beautiful. Hey, but you're, you're trying and I love it. You know, most people don't care, so, so I love you. Okay, well the the best way is, you know, you can connect. You can find me on LinkedIn. Raul T. Pereira. I actually have do have. I'm a solopreneur. I do have my own company and I'm doing this, you know, going all in on coaching. And the name of my company is called RTP Learning. And really quick side note, RTP is my initials, Raul Torres Ferreira.
So it's the RTP Learning. And my mom is a first generation of Mexican immigrant and when the nurse asked her, do you want a middle name for your son? She said yes, but she put her maiden name because of the mistranslation. So her maiden name is my middle name. So it's Raul Torres Pereira. So it's a funny story, but you can contact me there.
I have my challenge if you're ready to do it. It's rtplearning.com tiny smallchallenge. You know, t I N Y tiny. If not, you know, just reach out. I'm on social, I'm on LinkedIn, I'm on Instagram, I'm on Facebook.
Raul T. Pereira, you could go to my website and contact me there. I would love to. Even if it's just saying hello to me like, hey, I heard you on Tron.
How's it going, Raul? Hey, let's connect.
[00:34:49] Speaker A: And that's, you know, that's what this is all about, the human connection, the human spirit and personal growth and connections. So I want to thank you for your time. I feel like I could talk to you internally. Life has limits at times, unfortunately.
But I look forward to following up and wish you nothing but continued success. Thank you.
[00:35:05] Speaker B: Absolutely. Thank you.
[00:35:06] Speaker A: Royalty. Priya. Thank you so much on the Tron podcast, sir.
